Two people send the same message — "any recommendations tonight?" — and one of them is booked in ten minutes while the other is still deciding half an hour later. It is usually not luck. It is what went into the first message.
1. Lead with the time
There are only two things we need: a time you can definitely make and what you are looking for. Time comes first, and it matters more.
The reason is practical. Without a time, anyone we suggest might be busy exactly when you can come, so the suggestion is wasted. When you ask "who do you recommend" and we reply "what time?", we are not stalling — we genuinely cannot work without it.
So open with it: "tonight around 8, looking for D or above." That is enough.
2. Send the preferences with it
They do not have to be detailed, but they should be specific. "Pretty face", "on the taller side", "quiet type" all count, and all beat "anyone".
Preferences also let us filter out what you would reject, so you are not working through them one at a time.
3. The first suggestions are our best ones
What we send first is our short list — the ones we are most confident about and who get the most repeat requests. They are not picked at random.
So look at that first round properly. If none of them work, say what does not work. Too tall, too slim, wrong style — one line like that changes the second round completely.
4. Deciding fast is worth money
This is where most people lose out. Popular therapists do not wait.
For the same person at the same hour, several people are usually asking at once. Fifteen minutes of deliberation is often enough for that slot to go — not because we were slow, but because someone else was faster.
And the longer it drags on, the more of the good options are gone. What is left at the end matches your stated criteria on paper but nothing beyond that, and at that point nobody can fix it for you.
In one line
| If you send | What happens |
|---|---|
| "Any recommendations today?" | We have to ask your time first — five minutes gone |
| "Tonight around 8, D or above" | You get the list straight away and can book from it |
This is about making the exchange efficient, not a set of rules. If you are flying in, tell us your arrival date and rough time and we can arrange it before you land.